A Teaching and Contemplation for Navigating Intimacy in a Digital World

Get out a piece of paper. Grab a cup of tea. Take 15 minutes. Turn your phone off, and consider the following teaching:

“We must look for life’s meanings wherever we find ourselves and whenever such opportunities arise. We will have to focus our attentions in the midst of whatever calamity or chaos, or for that matter joy, presents itself to our immediate experience. We must be willing to enter the challenges of intimacy, however importunate, if we are to have a conversation that goes to the hear of matters.”Dr. Douglas Brooks, Poised for Grace
  • Do you agree with the author’s statement in the first line?

  • The renowned mythologist, Joseph Campbell, once stated, “I don’t believe that people are searching for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive?” Do you align with JC’s belief? Is it different than the author’s? Do you think it can be both?

  • How do you focus your attentions in the midst of life’s every-day ordinariness, challenges, joys and sheer pulsation of polarities? What are the possibilities for you if you do? If you don’t?

  • What do you think the author’s interpretation of intimacy is? In what way does intimacy help or hinder your focus and attentions?

  • How does your inner dialogue affect your conversation with others?

Bonus Questions

  • Do you have a practice, ritual or discipline that helps you to center, focus and bring balance to your life? What is it?
  • How do you bring more meaning into your life experiences?
  • What might be blocking you from creating intimacy with yourself and your loved ones?
  • Do you recognize when your inner critic is in the driver’s seat?
  • Do you need support in embracing the wisdom of your inner critic so you may realize your goals and desires?